Grief During the Holidays: Holding Space for What—and Who—is Missing

The holidays can bring warmth and wonder—but also grief.

For some, it’s a quiet ache. For others, it’s a storm.

You might be grieving:

• A loved one who passed

• A relationship that changed

• A version of yourself you’ve outgrown

• Traditions that no longer fit your life

Grief doesn’t disappear because the calendar says “celebrate.”

How to Honor Grief in December:

1. Light a candle for who (or what) you’re missing

2. Speak their name or memory aloud—privately or with others

3. Let go of “shoulds.” You don’t need to “be okay” by now

4. Give yourself permission to cry, laugh, or not attend at all

You are allowed to grieve, even when others are celebrating.

You are allowed to feel joy and sorrow in the same breath.

You are allowed to survive this season your way.